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BEAUTY BONDAGE – Soul beauty series by Lightandluv

Soul Beauty:

Beauty Bondage

The struggle with physical beauty is an undeniable collective problem that society is facing but,  it’s a distraction and focus that we deal with indvidually.

Why is it such a thing what we look like?

I wonder do we actually care or are we taught to care and assume that we must focus so much attention on our looks because we have been influenced to?

Bondage: the state of being a slave.

Many people, are silently suffering under the pressure to be physically beautiful.

This post is aimed at highlighting how bondage to beauty is plaguing so many young minds.

In my generation I’ve witnessed the beauty standard fluctuate over time, this shifting of ideals has been detrimental not just for myself but to other girls and boys. Which makes me question, who decides what’s ‘in’ and why do we all just follow the hype as if it’s set in stone? Many of us have assumed that we need to look a certain way conciously or subconsciously, but these ideas are different in each persons head. However, no one has actually commanded us out loud “look this way” but, whatever the prevailing beauty standard is, we measure ourselves against it, and feel less than, when we don’t match up to it. So we feel pressure or even try to meet a generic beauty standard just to appeal to other people.

When I deeped the way we have been created and that the only way we see ourselves is either a reflection or an image. Our bodies our created in such a way that we never see ourselves through our own eyes. To me that says a lot. It indicates that we really weren’t created to fixate on our looks. But in this modern day, with front cameras we have access to our faces at any point. ‘Selfies’ seem harmless, but I’m beginning to see that they are not always benefical to us as they are making our appearance which we were not created to be in constant view of, something that we are in constant view of. One case study to illustrate the dangerous side of picture taking, is this story: ‘A teenager became so obsessed with taking the perfect selfie that he tried to kill himself when his efforts failed.’ and he ‘spent up to 10 hours a day taking selfies’.

Here is a link to the full report: http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/selfie-obsession-made-teenager-danny-bowman-suicidal-9212421.html

This beauty struggle is something that affects both genders, it’s not just a female problem as males are also under pressure to look a certain way! Therefore, we can gather from the first post of this series that insecurity about our looks can begin affecting us at very early ages and it can affect both boys and girls. So, we shouldn’t stereotype as just a ‘teenage girl problem’ but anyone can be going through this at any time in their life…

Some light and love for you…

Boys and girls, it’s a good idea that we take time to assess and reflect upon our own perceptions of beauty that we currently hold and question them. I encourage you to seek peace with your appearance rather than to compare yourself to others and pick at your features or differents parts of your body. You are not obliged to do this, you have the choice and power not to! Realise that there is no rule book on this planet, that states how we should look. So, begin to ask yourself where did the ideas stem from that your nose, lips, ears, legs, arms, bum and so on are wrong or ugly?

Guys, we don’t have to deal with these issues alone. In the Bible it says to give our burdens to the Lord and He will take care of us… Psalm 55:22. Let’s not tolerate insecurities and see them as a norm. Beauty bondage, is not something we are to settle and submit to, but let’s realise that our lives are precious and our souls should have peace and this peace can be achieved about our looks! We don’t have to be physically appealing to the world to be happy. I was someone who longed to be beautiful for so many years and by the time that I’d actually began to think I was beauitful… I asked myself why did want it and what did it do for me when I got it? Nothing… my big dream to feel beautiful did not satisfy me. So, just to be real, beauty is not the answer.

Psalm 107:9 – For he satisfies the longing soul, and the hungry soul he fills with good things.

Our God is the only one who will satisfy our souls. It says ‘the hungry soul he fills with good things.’ Where we’ve struggled internally with insecurity, low self esteem and disatisfication with our looks. God can help us, He can take our burdens and fill our souls with good things!

If you are struggling with your physical beauty I can tell you with confidence that this is a mountain that you are able to overcome, If I can do it so can you… yes it will be a journey, but with a destination! Stay hopeful…

Thank you for reading

Until next time beautiful souls!

 

 

 

 

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Gamu

I write a joint blog with my friend, in my posts I aim to encourage and uplift others and share positive messages. I am a follower of Jesus Christ and aim to incorporate my faith within my posts.

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