Identity Crisis

Who am I? What is my identity based on? Do I see myself as God sees me or how society expects me to be?

I imagine a LOT of people coast through life without really giving these questions much thought. I’ll admit that I similarly never thought about my identity properly until last year when God really highlighted this to me. I’d been walking with God for about 2 years and I had no idea who I REALLY was! Crazy! The way we see ourselves has such an important and profound impact on our lives and the decisions we make. Whether we know it or not, we make a lot of important and life-changing decisions to a large extent on this very thing. From the clothes we wear and the relationships we enter into to our choice of language and words.

If you don’t know who God says you are, the world will feed you lies about who you’re not and you will believe it.

So many people unknowingly base their identities around jobs, relationships, peer approval etc All temporal things that are constantly changing. If your self worth is tied to your flashy and well paid job, what happens if the job goes? If your self worth is rooted in your relationship and how much your girl/boyfriend loves you and makes you feel secure, what happens if the relationship ends? Why base your whole being on things so temporary? As a believer, your identity NEEDS to be rooted in Jesus Christ alone for He is always the same (Hebrews 13:8). Regardless of life’s uncertainties, we can be sure that who God says we are will never change. In fact, because of how quickly our circumstances change, it is even more important that we are rooted in an identity that is steadfast and immovable.

I remember going for a job interview last year and in the weeks leading up to it being so focused on practicing and preparing as much as I could. I completely cut back on everything else (including my time with God) so I could put my all into it. In my head, I reasoned that it was only for a few weeks and that God would understand why I’d put Him on the side. Long story short, I didn’t get the job and I was devastated. I had never felt so low in my entire life and I genuinely felt like my life was over. I didn’t really know where to go from there or who I was. It was only some months later that God really revealed to me that my identity was entirely in that job. I had placed who I was SO confidently and poured my whole self into it, so that when I didn’t get the role I was left feeling empty and worthless.I had a very similar experience the year before, which I talked about in this post, clearly I didn’t learn my lesson that time. Now I realise how important it is to actually find out who I am in Christ and remain planted in the truth.

The Lord laid on my heart as far back as last year to start a Bible study series discussing various topics that young ladies in particular deal with in their journey through life. I thought it was fitting to start off the series by looking at Identity. I first learnt about Identity by studying the life of Jesus and discovering how much His identity was tested literally from the point He began His ministry until His death on the cross. The way He handled these tests was evident of how rooted He was in His identity as the son of God. The truth is, if you don’t know who God says you are, the world will feed you lies of who you’re not and you’ll believe it. My hearts desire is that we actually take time out to discover our identities as sons and joint heirs to God’s kingdom (Galatians 4:7 and Romans 8:17)

Over a lovely brunch meal, we will explore more closely the life of Jesus as mentioned above but also delve into some of what God says about us as His children. This is a completely open and transparent space to share our experiences and grow in the word of God.

Date: Saturday 18th March 2017

Time: 10.30am – 1.30pm

Location: The Imperial Restaurant

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Ayomide Akin-Oteniya

Ayo is a 21 year old law graduate from the University of Kent and lawyer-to-be. She is passionate about young people; encouraging them to live out their God-given purpose and bringing them together in order to celebrate talents and gifts. She is also a big advocate of encouraging young women to find their identity in Christ and be all that God created them to be.

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